Dosti Ki Kasam- Kasam Se Yeh Dosti
Friendship - a word which means the world to me.
I would move mountains for my friends, because I love them with my whole heart.
Someone once said : ” Susy just trusts everyone a lot, especially her friends. ”
When I read that, I wondered if that person was right. I mean I thought he/she knew me quite a bit… but when I heard this sentence, I wondered if it was true … I hate to admit it .. But I guess he/she was right .. I do trust my friends to the point of being foolish. There have been times when I have been taken for a ride because of this tendency to trust my friends. But even today, if one of my friends should come and ask me for a favour .. Something inside me tells me that I would do it for them.
Why do I do so much for my friends ?
Why do I care about them so much ?
Why is friendship so important for me, that I would risk anything else in my life for that ?
The reason is very simple - The reason is that I can’t exist without them and I flatter myself with the notion that they can’t survive without me.I am sure that all the hard-hearted people or even level-headed, sensible people would tell me
” You are foolish “.
May be I am .. Or may be I do know better than them, that “Noone is indispensable “. I am not contradicting that basic truth.
I am not saying that if I am not around, all these people whom I call as my friends would stop living. They would still carry on with their lives. But you know what I know with absolute certainty. “Noone else can replace another person “. You can make adjustments in the absence of that particular person …. But things would have been different had this person whom you loved had been there with you … RIGHT NOW AND TOMORROW.
No one can guarantee a tomorrow .. But we can all make the best of our todays, which come our way and enjoy every moment that we get with our friends .. We can all do the best we can to bring a smile on their faces. And enjoy it when they bring a smile to our face as well.
If I start naming my friends I am sure that this space wouldn’t be sufficient. So I wouldn’t embark on the task to which I wouldn’t be able to do complete justice to… However I shall proceed to name a few names which come to my mind randomly…
Some of them are still very much a part of my life … Some of them moved away from my life because of circumstances , because of geographical distances , because of mis-understandings , because of spouses , boy-friends , marriages , whatever .. Reasons seem too many… But a part of me shall always remember them with fondness knowing fully well that there is a part somewhere inside me which shall always treasure all the moments spent with them …. I might not get a chance to speak with them as often as I would love you .. They might not have time for me ….or vice versa .. But I am thankful for all those relationships which made me what I am today. I am thankful for all their characters as I could learn so many lessons from each one of them - whether their influence was small or big …
Just to name a few …
In Sujith, I learned that a person can be so nice that he would do anything for the people around him …
In Tisha, it was her maturity and determination to see her dreams through …
In Sojish, it was his passion for life and all the things new to him ..
In Vinoy, it was his open-hearted nature which refused to take offence at anyone or anything …
In Kishore, it was mostly his capacity for animated conversation and his apparent goodness which he would mask as selfishness if you praise him about it as he hates anyone mentioning anything good about him ..
In Ginu, it was her ability to laugh at the face of anything and her drive for perfection when she wants to purchase something …
In Sageeva, it was her tolerance ( in having suffered in silence with me as her room-mate ) ….
In Amar, it was his ability to make you believe you can conquer the world despite whatever odds you are up against …
In Sangeetha, it was her penchant for perfection and her determination to see anything through and her frankness …
In Nasra, it was her strength in character …
In Chakky, it was his ability to execute a whole lot of things ..
In Blessen, it was the way he cared about the people who were close to him ..
In Pushku, it was again his ability to smile despite what anyone would tease him about and his ability to love his friends…..
In Shiv, it was his ability to make even most commonest of occurence to be filled with so much humour … his uncanny ability to make even the most serious of person to roll on the floor with laughter. ( All that Shiv is, has been better described here )
In Mithun, again it was his quick humour and his ability to be there for you always no matter what the circumstances …
In Christy, it was his caring nature for others which make him do a lot of things even when it would hurt him ….
In Chacko, it was his ability to listen to someone without making any judgements …
And so many more like our Gunda in the flat … Lincy .. and many more .. so many more .. This space be enough to describe each one of them and all that I have learned from them ….. But all my friends mean so much to me right from the person who was 15 minute acquaintance to a life-long friend - because they have all shaped my outlook towards the world.
Even in the person who flicked 15 K from my purse ( who was my friend ) I learned that man always needs to be careful and not foolish when it comes to his friends.
[ As a wise man once said -
” If a friend cheats you the first time - He is at fault ;If he cheats you a second time - You are at fault. ” ]
I dedicate this song to all my friends - each one of them with their sweet natu0re and eccentricities and their desire and attempts to protect me so many times from myself and from others , their goodness which displays itself in everything they do for me and for others around them and for making me also care for them so deeply.
Hindi Song Title : Yeh Dosti
Hindi Movie : Sholay
Singers : Kishore Kumar & Manna Dey
Yeh dosti hum nahin todengeTodenge dam magar tera saath na chhodenge
Ae meri jeet teri jeet, teri haar meri haar
Sun ae mere yaar
Tera gham mera gham, meri jaan teri jaan
Aisa apna pyaar
Jaan pe bhi khelenge, tere liye le lenge
Jaan pe bhi khelenge, tere liye le lenge
Sab se dushmani
Yeh dosti hum nahin todenge
Todenge dam magar
Tera saath na chhodenge
Logon ko aate hain do nazar hum magar
Dekho do nahin
Arre ho judaa ya khafa ae khuda hai dua
Aisa ho nahin
Khaana peena saath hai
Marna jeena saath hai
Khaana peena saath hai
Marna jeena saath hai
Saari zindagi
Yeh dosti hum nahin todenge
Todenge dam magar tere saath naa chhodenge